Friends
A friend in need is friend in deed!
Friends in need! "Ummmm should I light your pipe?" S/W Bryce.
Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is slow-ripening fruit.
Aristotle
Friendship day! A new reason to celebrate! We had nothing like these in our school and college days. A creation of Hallmark, I’ve been told, as Santa Claus was a coke invention!
Dina tells me:
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US Congress sanctioned National Friendship Day in 1935 as a special day to honor and celebrate friendships. In 1997, the United Nations named Winnie the Pooh as the world's "Ambassador of Friendship."
Well I don’t know its exact antecedents but I definitely feel that among other things friendship is definitely something which needs to be and is worth celebrating!
What is friendship?
My views are:
A friend isn’t an opportunity to serve my purpose. The friendship is an opportunity to discover a greater self. After all a friend is the mirror of one’s most comfortable self!
A friend is someone who is willing to give me his/her most precious commodity, one’s time, when I need him/her.
A friend is someone whose concern for you overrides his concern for how he looks in your eyes.
A friend is someone who helps you regain balance distances when turning into a crutch.
Friendship is not starting all over again!
To Dina friends are:
Friends - people I feel most comfortable with, can be me with them.
Those I find some connection with at any or a specific level
And those who are there and don’t judge!
A friend helps you grow!
Charlene’s views:
A friend is someone who listens and understands.
My friend can offer me advice, but doesn't get pissed if I ignore it.
My friend knows that I'll keep his/her confidences. My friend takes the time to know me, and I do the same.
Well like a large portion of my life story, this was a last moment-er effort. Opinions are still coming in. But I would sure like to know your views on ‘Friendship’. In the meanwhile wish you a very Happy Friendship day!!!
This post is dedicated to all my friends, can't name all of you, but thank you for enriching my life!
A specially mention about Rajesh and Sunil, my friends in my need! May all have friends like you!
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anonymous (4.8.03 10:53) a friend absorbs people in an amazing non-judgemental manner. a friend talks, discusses, delves into what makes you click, the weaknesses and the strengths, a friend knows what the other wants from him, and what he can give. and after knowing all the warts and the blemishes, he opens his arms and says:" come, god has thought it fit for you to come into this world. and for me that is enough." friendship with you is always a door or a window: i can always see or step beyond myself..... |
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anonymous (4.8.03 12:48) On FRIENDSHIP DAY: In terms of personal occasions, there Earlier there was only the birthday and wedding anniversary to remember...the rest were occasions limited to the family...rakshbandhan et al...friends we hung out with daily, there was no need to have a special day for friendship... after all any time spent with a friend is special don't you agree? No two moments are the same even if all you do is sit alongside in absolute silence... Anyway now we have friendship day and best friends day as 2 separate days...it's like a venn diagram or distance chart...if you get a wish from someone one friendship day and not on best friends day then perhaps one should assume you are not part of the inner circle of friends?? Can be a trifle disturbing when you find out that you have been left out on the mailing list for the day..lol...lol Anyway that's as far as days go...on FRIENDSHIP no one perhaps put it better than Gibran when he said: Your friend is your needs answered. He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving. And he is your board and your fireside. For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace. When your friend speaks his mind you fear not the "nay" in your own mind, nor do you withhold the "ay." And when he is silent your heart ceases not to listen to his heart; For without words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed. When you part from your friend, you grieve not; For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain. And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit. For love that seeks aught but the disclosure of its own mystery is not love but a net cast forth: and only the unprofitable is caught. And let your best be for your friend.If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also. For what is your friend that you should seek him with hours to kill? Seek him always with hours to live. For it is his to fill your need, but not your emptiness. And in the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed. Frankly i don't know if I expect my friends to be non-judgemental...we are taught to judge right and wrong since childhood..is it so easy not to judge? But it does not really matter...to me they are people who are there when they judge i am right, who warn me when they think i am wrong but who are there to pick up the pieces when i overlook their warning and land in trouble, which of course is me all over. I am deeply grateful for my friends and i do hope they know how much they mean to me not only on any particular day but everyday... cheers Aps |
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anonymous (5.8.03 12:31) hey thanks 4 droppin by. u got very interesting blog here. liked all ur digital art. me too a great escher fan and dali. in myblog, under art section i posted about escher and dali. i liked ur escher hands picture with erasers. great thought. take care.Zen. http://nothingbutzen.rediffblogs.com/ |
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(5.8.03 23:05) i am minded of these thoughts on friendship. first you have a conversation with him,then you get to trust him , you want to be with him often, when the friendship deepens, you want to help him, and you ask him to help you, and you thank him. these are the steps towards friendship. |
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disha (13.11.03 08:02) friends are valuable gift |
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ravi (19.9.05 09:59) hi |